Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October!
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1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:17 
Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! I'm so frustrated right now.
I'm in a flat of 8 - 4 guys, 4 girls. The guys are really nice, friendly and jokey, but the other girls.... Aaaargh. One of them is the definition of phantom. She just seems to not exist. I've tried talking to her but she appears almost scared of me... I'm trying to be nice, I'm an EU student so I understand she feels lonely (she's from Saudi I think?)
The other two are the representation of what I was most scared of when I came to uni here - I thought I might end up with shallow, vacant, malicious, plastic, gossipy orange girls who have no interests beyond sunbeds and The Only Way is Essex. And it's happened.
They have obviously become "BFFFLs!!!" immediately. That's fine, I admit I don't have much in common with them. But then they purposely try to exclude everyone else in the flat from what they're doing. This evening is the perfect example - one of the guys was gonna cook for all of us, cause he's an amazing cook, and had also invited some friends round. He goes up to ask them if they wanna join and they're like "Oh no you can't have the kitchen!! We're having a Mexican night, we need it!" and turns out they invited some of their friends over without telling us and just expected the rest of us to clear out. So, we did the whole thing a bit earlier, rushed it a little, and cleared out. We come back later and the place is a tip - bits of food on the floor, kitchen roll all over the place, cutlery with gobs of food just lying around.
And it's not just this evening - they never ask us to join them for anything, they never offer to take part in a flat meal even though on the first day we decided we'd have at least one or two a week, they hardly talk to me or the other girl, preferring to leave passive-aggressive notes about whose turn it is to take out the rubbish or buy the loo roll or whatnot. I know the guys are great, but I'm living right between these two bimbos and I'm just sick of them, how am I meant to live with them for the rest of the year?? 1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:21 Re: Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! Talk to the others about how you feel, see if they feel the same way? 1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:47 Re: Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! I think it's mainly the fact that none of us wants a big fight... the guys are all for avoiding confrontation and I can see their point, I mean we are going to have to live together all year and from what I've seen so far these two are certainly the types to pull a hissy fit. Also, because none of the guys wants to be the one to say it, I think I'll end up having to do something, and I really don't want to get a reputation as "that bitch from block D". It's just really irritating, I'll try drop a hint tomorrow and be like "if you could tidy up before you go out it'd be really nice" but I doubt it'll make a difference...I'm not saying you all should attack them, hit them around the head with the iron and hide their bodies in the freezer. Just don't be a push over when it comes to them, if they tell you to leave the kitchen because they want it, tell them to jog on and proceed with your normal business. 1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:48 Re: Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! Hmm, well, I lived with three girls exactly like that when I was in first year of university. They couldn't stand me and the feeling was entirely mutual. Luckily there was an amazing girl living in the same flat so we just had to do our own thing and live in complete contempt. 1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:52 Re: Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! I think it's mainly the fact that none of us wants a big fight... the guys are all for avoiding confrontation and I can see their point, I mean we are going to have to live together all year and from what I've seen so far these two are certainly the types to pull a hissy fit. Also, because none of the guys wants to be the one to say it, I think I'll end up having to do something, and I really don't want to get a reputation as "that bitch from block D". It's just really irritating, I'll try drop a hint tomorrow and be like "if you could tidy up before you go out it'd be really nice" but I doubt it'll make a difference...The people in my flat have also adopted this approach, stay quiet and take it rather than speak up and risk making it awkward, which is silly. They had no right to demand the kitchen to themselves and their friends. If that had been me, I'd have gotten the flatmates and done it anyway and let them work their way around you. You live there, and your flatmates probably outnumbered them, you should have the priority, don't let them phase the rest of you out of the space, it's communal, remind them they can't solely take over it. 1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:53 Re: Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! Hmm, well, I lived with three girls exactly like that when I was in first year of university. They couldn't stand me and the feeling was entirely mutual. Luckily there was an amazing girl living in the same flat so we just had to do our own thing and live in complete contempt.
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1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:17 Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! I'm so frustrated right now.I'm in a flat of 8 - 4 guys, 4 girls. The guys are really nice, friendly and jokey, but the other girls.... Aaaargh. One of them is the definition of phantom. She just seems to not exist. I've tried talking to her but she appears almost scared of me... I'm trying to be nice, I'm an EU student so I understand she feels lonely (she's from Saudi I think?)
The other two are the representation of what I was most scared of when I came to uni here - I thought I might end up with shallow, vacant, malicious, plastic, gossipy orange girls who have no interests beyond sunbeds and The Only Way is Essex. And it's happened.
They have obviously become "BFFFLs!!!" immediately. That's fine, I admit I don't have much in common with them. But then they purposely try to exclude everyone else in the flat from what they're doing. This evening is the perfect example - one of the guys was gonna cook for all of us, cause he's an amazing cook, and had also invited some friends round. He goes up to ask them if they wanna join and they're like "Oh no you can't have the kitchen!! We're having a Mexican night, we need it!" and turns out they invited some of their friends over without telling us and just expected the rest of us to clear out. So, we did the whole thing a bit earlier, rushed it a little, and cleared out. We come back later and the place is a tip - bits of food on the floor, kitchen roll all over the place, cutlery with gobs of food just lying around.
And it's not just this evening - they never ask us to join them for anything, they never offer to take part in a flat meal even though on the first day we decided we'd have at least one or two a week, they hardly talk to me or the other girl, preferring to leave passive-aggressive notes about whose turn it is to take out the rubbish or buy the loo roll or whatnot. I know the guys are great, but I'm living right between these two bimbos and I'm just sick of them, how am I meant to live with them for the rest of the year??
1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:21 Re: Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! Talk to the others about how you feel, see if they feel the same way? If they do, then.. in a mean way.. exclude them. They will either soon get the point and change or eventually be left out. It's harsh but still.
1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:47 Re: Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! I think it's mainly the fact that none of us wants a big fight... the guys are all for avoiding confrontation and I can see their point, I mean we are going to have to live together all year and from what I've seen so far these two are certainly the types to pull a hissy fit. Also, because none of the guys wants to be the one to say it, I think I'll end up having to do something, and I really don't want to get a reputation as "that bitch from block D". It's just really irritating, I'll try drop a hint tomorrow and be like "if you could tidy up before you go out it'd be really nice" but I doubt it'll make a difference...I'm not saying you all should attack them, hit them around the head with the iron and hide their bodies in the freezer. Just don't be a push over when it comes to them, if they tell you to leave the kitchen because they want it, tell them to jog on and proceed with your normal business. Five against two, just assert your dominance before you get to the point where any action from you guys will lead to confrontation, get it into their heads early on that people wont cater to their every whim in the real world outside of daddies empire.
Last edited by Mockery; 1 Hour Ago at 00:49. 1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:48 Re: Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! Hmm, well, I lived with three girls exactly like that when I was in first year of university. They couldn't stand me and the feeling was entirely mutual. Luckily there was an amazing girl living in the same flat so we just had to do our own thing and live in complete contempt. It was difficult but I just got on with it. They even did stuff like go in my room when I wasn't there and I'd come back and they'd rush out giggling. ****ing *****.
Just the luck of the draw I'm afraid.
1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:52 Re: Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! I think it's mainly the fact that none of us wants a big fight... the guys are all for avoiding confrontation and I can see their point, I mean we are going to have to live together all year and from what I've seen so far these two are certainly the types to pull a hissy fit. Also, because none of the guys wants to be the one to say it, I think I'll end up having to do something, and I really don't want to get a reputation as "that bitch from block D". It's just really irritating, I'll try drop a hint tomorrow and be like "if you could tidy up before you go out it'd be really nice" but I doubt it'll make a difference...The people in my flat have also adopted this approach, stay quiet and take it rather than speak up and risk making it awkward, which is silly. They had no right to demand the kitchen to themselves and their friends. If that had been me, I'd have gotten the flatmates and done it anyway and let them work their way around you. You live there, and your flatmates probably outnumbered them, you should have the priority, don't let them phase the rest of you out of the space, it's communal, remind them they can't solely take over it. You're not the bitch in the situation for making sure they don't treat your flat like a tip, I'd be annoyed if I had people like that in my flat. Although I've got two girls who live next door, Essex style type girls who come over and leave their rubbish, glasses and alcohol over so I can sympathise.
1 Hour Ago: 17th October 2011 00:53 Re: Can't stand my roommates, and it's only mid-October! Hmm, well, I lived with three girls exactly like that when I was in first year of university. They couldn't stand me and the feeling was entirely mutual. Luckily there was an amazing girl living in the same flat so we just had to do our own thing and live in complete contempt. It was difficult but I just got on with it. They even did stuff like go in my room when I wasn't there and I'd come back and they'd rush out giggling. ****ing *****.
Just the luck of the draw I'm afraid.
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