Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over a year. I'm 21 and he's 24. But lately he's been distant and moody towards me. I thought it was because he hated his job (we work at the same place, but in different departments, and yeah it's not that great).

But last week, it all came out. He said he thinks we should break up because although he loves me he's bored, that I don't have any "interests" that he likes, and that I don't talk enough.

He says he has many "interests" (he does...but he never does anything about them) and that because he's with me he can't do them. Drawing and animation for example, he says I'm holding him back. Yet in his spare time all he does is play computer games. And if he said he wanted some time to himself for that stuff I'd be fine with it. He says it's like he can't be who he wants to be, because of me...

But anyway, after that I thought I'd best take an interest and show a bit more effort because I don't want us to be over. I bought tickets to a play he likes that he'd never seen, I read it the night before and we went and I bought him drinks and tried to make sure he had a good time etc. I tried to talk to him about it but still he was moody and snappy with me.

I must admit, I am quite an introverted person, so I really do try to make an effort to talk to others. Especially when it comes to his family and friends.

But last night he got angry again, and suggested we split up. He said I'm uninteresting and don't talk to his family and friends, and that I need to "talk more." The other night we went round to his brothers house, and he said I didn't say anything to them. But I DID. Really, I did. I don't know how to be what he wants.

I do make the effort, I really, really, do. I'm just so devastated I can't stop crying about it, especially because of the whole "talk more" thing. At uni people kept telling me to "talk more" and my grandad thinks I'm too quiet to achieve anything in life. It really hurts...like I'm not good enough and have to change.

I just feel so worthless, like I'm not good enough as I am. I don't want us to be over just yet....he's my first relationship whereas he's had a few before. I still love him a lot and like spending time with him, but lately I just feel like I'm tiptoeing around terrified of saying (or not saying) anything wrong.

When we were talking about splitting up I was really upset, yet he didn't seem to be bothered. I just feel so inadequate and....urgh, really don't like myself right now I feel like it's all my fault.

What can I do? (and please, don't say "talk more"....) I know the obvious is to get more confidence socially but it's not a quick fix, is it?

What do I do? Sorry if it's long but I really need some advice, I'm so down about it thanks if you read all that.

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