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For questions and discussions relating to all aspects and kinds of relationships, from love and dating to friends, family and work. Threads about sexuality also belong here. 1 Hour Ago: 4th October 2011 01:43   3rd year male and still a virgin, not by choice. Clearly. Profile
5'11 male
3rd year at uni
20 years of age

Past Sexual Experience
None

Past relationship
1,which was two years ago. Was told that "I had sex on the brain and appeared sexually frustarted." Conclusion- 3 month relationship with no sex. Some relationship

Number and outcome of approaches
Been clubbing but get rejected- A LOT.
Mates in summer suggested we chat up girls off the street. Refused to do it as let's be honest it's suicide.

Problem
Starting uni again and just don't understand why everyone seems to be pairing up but me. Be that in a club or outside a club.Both of my housemates have relationships and many of my "lads" make it sound so easy.

Failed solutions
Got involved in sports to a decent level
Got involved in Journalism
Went out to parties/clubs couple a times a month

This seemed to only encourage thinking about compatibility based on CV-like points; where girls were attracted to the guys who had the highest score: most friends, highest grades; best body etc.

My questions
Why am I so undesirable?
Are views so totally off the mark?

I've tried manning up and trying to be goal driven but that doesn't stop urges. Besides trying not to get laid doesn't seem all that manly to me...

1 Hour Ago: 4th October 2011 01:46   Re: 3rd year male and still a virgin, not by choice. Clearly. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT.

There are many men who didn't loose their virginity in their early twenties. The whole sex thing is not a race. TAKE IT FROM ME... you want your first time to be with someone special. Having sex for the first time can make you very nervous if you aren't with the right girl. II was so nervous when I first had sex, but my girlfriend understood and the experience was great because we helped each other. wait it out. Don't have sex with some crazy club slut

You need new mates as well and you need to go to new places. It sounds like they watch too much Inbetweeners because you are obviously going to all the wrong places!!! You WILL NOT find a decent girl in a club!!! Expand your social horizons and go to places you have never been before. Join societies, join sports clubs, try jazz bars, etc.

Oh, and you are manly enough. Screw what all the other bellends on here say to stroke their own ego. You have a penis so you are a man. I think it's more of a confidence issue. Seek councelling if it's an issue. You probably have a good councelling service in your uni. Stop looking at everyone else and concentrate on you because you are an amazing person.

Improve your mental health, get exercise, concentrate on your studies, try new things and the girls will come to you.

Last edited by jblackmoustache; 1 Hour Ago at 01:56. 1 Hour Ago: 4th October 2011 02:04   Re: 3rd year male and still a virgin, not by choice. Clearly. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT.

There are many men who didn't loose their virginity in their early twenties. The whole sex thing is not a race. TAKE IT FROM ME... you want your first time to be with someone special. Having sex for the first time can make you very nervous if you aren't with the right girl. II was so nervous when I first had sex, but my girlfriend understood and the experience was great because we helped each other. wait it out. Don't have sex with some crazy club slut

You need new mates as well and you need to go to new places. It sounds like they watch too much Inbetweeners because you are obviously going to all the wrong places!!! You WILL NOT find a decent girl in a club!!! Expand your social horizons and go to places you have never been before. Join societies, join sports clubs, try jazz bars, etc.

Oh, and you are manly enough. Screw what all the other bellends on here say to stroke their own ego. You have a penis so you are a man. I think it's more of a confidence issue. Seek councelling if it's an issue. You probably have a good councelling service in your uni. Stop looking at everyone else and concentrate on you because you are an amazing person.

Improve your mental health, get exercise, concentrate on your studies, try new things and the girls will come to you.

It probably is a confidence issue.Also this need to achieve in order to get a GF is warped.

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